I lost two family members to cancer and even though they knew their treatment wasn’t working as it should, they continued to go until the end.
After losing one and a half breasts and most of my abdomen to cancer, I learned that I am more than the sum of my parts.
My surgeon told me that cancer was a “head game”, and that my attitude toward the disease had a great deal to do with how successful my recovery would be. I never forgot that. I never doubted I would be well….and I am - going on nearly 8 years. Sometimes its hard to think positively, but it is one of the strongest weapons we have against the disease. How you view yourself and your situation really impacts recovery. So, for those recently diagnosed, those currently battling, or those in recovery: talk, laugh, listen to beautiful music, view some amazing art, if you are able go see some beautiful scenery, marvel in the wonders of the world and be confident in your place in it, and truly believe that you will be well.
F is for FREEBIES. Did you know once you are diagnosed with breast cancer you can get FREE wigs, hats, housecleaning, vacation retreats, magazines, apps, financial assistance, and all sorts of support? Most women don’t. But there are so many helpful resources and organizations out there to help your body, soul and pocketbook when you need it the most. Check out my site, Breast Cancer Freebies to find out all that’s out there to help you on your cancer fighting journey.
I have had breast cancer twice. You are at the mercy of the oncology doctors and nurses. You trust their care and treatment regimen. Humbling is the only word that comes to mind…it makes you think.
S IS FOR SUPPORT. Support is the assistance we all rely on. It is the spouse who greets you at the end of the day, the friend who is there to hear you gripe, and the colleague who is there to cover you when you are unable to keep a commitment. Support spans the emotional, physical, and structural domains and, as I’ve learned, is individually defined and situationally dependent.
B IS FOR BATTLING. I don’t think of myself as a fighter … I really don’t like thinking about or talking about cancer in terms of battling or fighting because that’s just not how I experience it. I think I’ll just keep trying to outwit cancer and whatever happens not allow it to own me.
F IS FOR FAMILY. Family is complicated. It is intense. And it offers the world’s greatest joys and greatest hardships. For me, my little core family is at the center of everything. Nothing is more important.
After surviving breast cancer for 15 years, my mom was diagnosed again with a metastatic cancer. She kept her faith. She fought like a lion. She never gave up. She loved life, and wanted to see her grandson grow up. Unfortunately, she lost her battle after 8 long months fighting like the bravest warrior. It was a very unfair war, as the cure was not entirely within her span of control. But the smile never left her lips, even during her most difficult moments. She was strong.